Thursday, November 17, 2016

If I'm Wearing My Glasses Leave Me Alone

It's a bright, cold, rainy day. Yes, bright, surprisingly. The high white clouds are trying to trick me into thinking it's nice outside. Indeed I keep turning to look out the window to see if the sun is peeking through. It's not. Just thin clouds dripping their contents as they slowly slink over the coast inland. I'm not amused.

Had a hard time getting out of bed. I think I'm coming down with a cold. I wish I was coming down with a cold: a good excuse to stay in bed all day. I'll be staying in the house anyways. I have plenty to do that I don't want to do: homework, housework, showering, brushing my hair. 

I'm debating if I'm going into another depression or if I'm just tired or if I'm just lazy or if my head still isn't totally healed from that concussion in July. Maybe a combination. The bottom line is I don't want to do anything.

My list of to do's today started like this: 1-Get out of bed, 2-Drink Water, 3-Eat something healthy, 4-Put on contacts, 5-Brush  hair, 6-Take Vitamins, 7-Plan dinner, 8-blog, ... I skipped from 3 and went straight to 8. I couldn't handle the others. I might go back but I also have homework to do so I might just take a nap.

I haven't been surfing in 3 weeks because the surf has been too big. I've tried running a few times but it still hurts my head (post-concussion). Walking is cold. Yesterday I bought a rowing machine from a surplus sale. I'll see what excuses I can come up with for not using that. In a similar vein I have gained 10+ pounds since the move. Hence I am wearing sweats a lot.

Other problems I should face but won't: refinance the rental, set up income sensitive repayment for student loans, wake up my son who needs to find a job, get better insurance agent, track down life insurance policy, adopt a puppy.

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

On A Dime

Just when you think you've settled in and have got it figured out, things change.

Two weeks ago we accepted a new job. In less than two weeks we will be leaving our island home and making for the cold ocean shores of Westport, Washington.


Yeah, it's out there. But, it has surf. That's what's important.

Just a month or two ago we gave up on buying a house here in Hawaii, however, last week we made an offer on a new house there in Washington and it looks like, after 5 long years of renting, we will be homeowners again in about a month!


Well, kinda a beach house.  We are the second house back from the beach with deeded access to the beach down a little path. Do you see the little bit of surf out there? Do you? Do you?!!

And here is a close up of the beach that will make you drool . . .

Beach for as far as the eye can see.

The last two weeks have not been as glamorous as this lovely stretch of beach.  Instead it has looked a lot like this

 It has not been a pretty sight. Everything in the house is a constant mess. I sort through and organize and pack it all piece by piece. Then everything that gets pulled out gets sold. Lots of stuff is getting sold. I feel like I am selling practically everything.  I learned when I moved out here that stuff wasn't that important and I'm not sure I want all this stuff that has been damaged by the sun and heat and humidity of Hawaii. I'm even considering selling my beloved Bosch. This stuff is getting serious!

If you're local I'm also still trying to find a home for my Suzuki Esteem Wagon, Dave's Ford F350 Crew Cab, a piano, a bird, and a lot of odds and ends. Follow my Facebook for all the details!

Friday, June 17, 2016

Negative and Positive Feedback

Good advice from Performance Coach Carol Wilson for managers, parents, teachers, . . . everyone:

"Negative feedback is best given in private to the person concerned.
"There are times and places for giving positive feedback. These are the parameters: 
  1. As often as you can 
  2. Only when it is deserved 
  3. Immediately 
  4. In public if the recipient is not shy and if it will not belittle the contribution of other members of the team 
  5. Direct to the recipient 
  6. To the recipient’s boss 
"Surveys show that people value satisfaction in their work even more than money. One of the best ways of raising employees’ satisfaction is to tell them specifically the difference they have made and where they are good at their jobs, every day and as often as is appropriate."

Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Selling the House . . . Again

Once again we are going to try to sell our house. The market is up and we will be able to pay off our mortgage now (hooray) but it has been rented for the past 5 years so the sale will be taxed (boo). The taxes are such that we will break even on the sale if we get our asking price. Instead of paying Uncle Sam I'm running calculations on sale prices and doing research on deferring those taxes with a 1031 Exchange. I need a place to dump all my research and this seemed like the perfect place to do it. Maybe some of this will be helpful for you too? Do you have any advice for me?

Friday, May 20, 2016

I've Been Doing A Lot of This Lately

Hi Ara,
I am pretty booked up right now and I'm not taking on any new projects for a while. But I do have two recommendations for people who you can call who I think could fit your daughter's dress in.  Both of them are excellent seamstresses. My first choice would be Nan Xxxxxx. Her phone number is xxx-xxxx or xxx'xxxx. Call her right away because she does get booked up too. She has done a lot of wedding dresses and formals. My second choice would be Aurie Xxxxxxx. She too does great work and I can highly recommend her. Her number is xxx-xxxx

I hope one of them works out for you. Congratulations on the wedding! What an exciting time for your family! Thank you for thinking to ask me, I appreciate your consideration.

I have been learning how to say "No" nicely. At least I think I'm doing it nicely. What do you think?

This has been a very difficult thing for me to do. I enjoy helping people out. I enjoy using my talents. I like sewing and creating new things and making beautiful things and solving problems.

I don't like being stressed out and having too many things to do. I don't like having to tell my kids that I'm too busy to help them with something.  I don't like not having the time to do a job perfectly (or as close to perfect as I am capable).

This has been a year full of things to be done: from housework, to homework; from teaching at the University to teaching in Seminary; from costumes to student development. Not to mention being a supportive wife and mother and friend. There has been a lot on my plate and it has been a learning experience. I have learned how to better manage my time, how to better prioritize my task list, how to let things go, and how to say "no".

How do you say no nicely?
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